Posted by: sharonseidel | December 12, 2012

No I Don’t Want Dessert With That…..

Hello fellow bloggers!  I think last time you tuned into my story, I was patting myself on the back for resisting the temptation of ordering a dessert at the work Christmas dinner.  Well, listen well for the story continues…..

First, a quick recap on our story so far. The work Christmas party was last Friday night and as I explained before, we ordered our meals in advance.  I had deliberately chosen not to order a dessert (be gone STICKY DATE PUDDING, I banish thee!) when the organiser of the dinner pointed out that I had “forgotten” to order dessert.  I assured her that I had chosen not to order dessert and no I was not going to change my mind.  I was pretty impressed with myself.

Friday night rolled around and I was rocking my new dress and awesome new shoes.  I loved the feeling when I saw the jaws drop as I came into the restaurant and the compliments I received all night.  I stuck to the plan, had one glass of wine at the beginning of the night and ordered myself a large bottle of mineral water to drink.  I ate one piece of garlic bread and my main course and again congratulated myself on my amazing willpower.

The next thing I knew, the waitress was trying to put a dish of berry sorbet in front of me.  I said, no I did not order that but apparently, the organiser of the dinner misguidedly thought that there was no way that I meant that I did not want dessert and ordered it for me.  The waitress looked confused and said “OK then, I’ll just leave it here then and someone else can eat it”  Everybody else had their own dessert and it was all women at the table, there was no way anyone else was scoffing that dessert as well as their own.  I took a deep breath and said “No, do not leave it there, I am not going to eat it.”  The waitress looked both miffed and confused but took it away.  Again, I was 10 feet tall, and it wasn’t just the fabulous shoes.

It got me thinking about the good intentions of others in your weight loss journey.  People offering you the small piece of cake “come on you’ve been so good, you’ve earned it”  or even the fruit platter because it’s healthy and won’t hurt your diet.  There is no malicious intent in their actions, no desire to hurt your journey but merely a lack of understanding that you don’t feel deprived without the cake, or the fruit platter or the berry sorbet.  It can be a minefield especially at this time of year, but you can negotiate it if you tread carefully and keep your eye on the prize. I will just say though, I’m glad she didn’t order me the Sticky Date Pudding otherwise this post may have started with “Forgive me Father for I have sinned, it’s been 5 days since the Sticky Date Pudding…..”


  1. Fist pumping moment – congrats for sticking to your guns and not eating that dessert. Even though people have the best intentions and their thoughts and actions are all in the right place, they need to respect your wishes. Good on you for rising above the temptation!

  2. This speaks so clearly to me and what I’ve been going through with these temptations. People really do mean well, but they just don’t understand the process. For me, it is like trying to offer someone who is trying to quit smoking a cigarette because they’ve been so good. While I do hope to be able to add foods back into my day to day life, I need toget through this process first. 🙂

  3. Yup, I hear ya, hence the chocolate mountain that keeps getting higher and higher on my desk as we speak.

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